find yourself: to discover, especially where a thing or person is, either unexpectedly or by searching, or to discover where to get or how to achieve something
verb I found my mom making a cake
help yourself: to make it possible or easier for someone to do something, by doing part of the work yourself or by providing advice, money, support, etc.:
verb I help myself
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